Shame punishments: cruel or just?
Thu, 19 Jul 2012 06:30:00 GMT —
It's the old fashioned act of making the punishment fit the crime with a new age twist by using social media - and one local woman took advantage of it.
"I made them walk to school and from school in the winter; I followed them in the truck. I made them wear safety vests, I put signs on the truck, used my flashers and drove behind them 1.2 miles one way," said Joni Cheek of Baconton.
It's called shame punishment and Joni Cheek says after two of her grandsons got in a fist fight on the school bus and were suspended, she wanted to teach them a lesson.
"I told them that the point was that it is not a right to ride the school bus, it is a privilege."
Cheek says at first the boys were angry but later admitted they deserved it. It's been two years since the punishment, and both kids haven't been in trouble since - in fact, they've raised their grades.
Although some grandparents and parents may say walking down a busy road with a sign around your neck is a lesson that sticks, psychologists say there are better methods to use than shame.
"There are much more effective methods of teaching a child instead of just using shame. You and I don't learn that well from shame, we learn better from good instruction and from people that we know that care about us that are teaching us something from a caring position," said licensed psychologist at Insight Psychotherapy, Cheryl Kaiser.
Cheek says she believes this was the right way to teach her grandchildren and it trickles down from her father's lessons.
"The way I was raised, I feel like that shows how much your parents or grandparents love you, by showing you the right way."
What do you think, are "shame punishments" justifiable or wrong?