Dealing with "mean girls" at school
Teenage girls have many pressures on them during their adolescent years. Their bodies are changing, they are learning who they are, boys and their appearance are always on their minds. Add on top of that the pressure of finding friends and dealing with "mean girls." Mean girls are not just in Hollywood movies, but right here in our own school systems.
Fox 31 talked with students who were willing to share their struggles with battling "mean girls." One young teen says her bullies were aggressive when they didn't want her to be friends with a boy.
"A whole group of girls just came and got in my face and started yelling at me. I'm not a fighter at all, so I was scared. I was trying not to show it, but I was really scared. I didn't want to fight her because that's just not what I do."
With the popularity of social media, mean girls have new material to work with. Bullying doesn't stop once students are out of school for the day, it continues at home online.
"There's a couple kids at school that started a fake twitter and they post pictures of outcasts at the school that they think aren't perfect and make fun of them," says a local student.
Albany native, Haley Kilpatrick, has done her part in battling bullies by founding "Girl Talk," a peer to peer mentoring program where high school girls can mentor middle school girls. Kilpatrick also conducted more than 2,000 hours worth of interviews with both middle and high school girls and has written a book called "The Drama Years" compiling the information she obtained.
Kilpatrick gave three ways parents can help their daughters make it through these tough years. The first is for your daughter to have a peer mentor.
"Someone who is a good leader, someone you want your daughter looking up to," advises Kilpatrick.
The next is a community service project.
"It's the greatest gift you can give them. Help her to step outside herself by serving others," says Kilpatrick
And finally, an anchor activity outside of school where she shares a common interest with her peers and feels like she belongs.
For more information on "Girl Talk" and Haley Kilpatrick log on to www.desiretoinspire.org.